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Listening in Love during Pandemic


Listening in a Time Such as This

During this time, many of us have been asked to assume roles that maybe are not familiar to us. For example, for the first part of this time, Nancy and I have had my daughter and my four grandchildren living with us. In addition to my son who already lives with us, this has certainly changed the dynamic of our household. I feel very comfortable in the role of grandfather, as I spend much time every summer with the grandchildren anyway. It has been somewhat challenging though, to find things to do with parks closed and other activities we would normally do on hold. The normal routine of parish life and other roles that I play has now been taken away as well. So, when a situation arises in our household during this time, where one of us might be feeling stressed or might need a change of pace, I have come to realize that relying on my gift of listening has been valuable.

Perhaps some of you have had to assume roles you are not familiar with. Parents are now, in addition to children’s teachers, being asked to homeschool. Adult children are separated from aging parents and there is a worry there as well. Caregiving from a distance, making sure relatives are OK and safe and healthy are all challenges we are facing. Some of us even now are working from home and trying to develop that new reality. These are all changes many of us have been going through. Perhaps God is asking us all to sharpen our listening skills. Perhaps to be present to our family, including our children and avoid the temptation to multi-task

But listening, whether through a video call, a traditional phone call, an email, or face-to-face always needs to occur with love. This is a gift we as followers of Christ can offer the people in our lives. Listening and being truly present to someone is a powerful and enduring gift. By doing this, no matter what turn this crisis takes, we can bring the sacred, the presence of God into the situation. All of us would admit that many aspects of this crisis are overwhelming and uncontrollable but listening with compassion allows us to bring the calm of Jesus’ message into the situation.

In the Gospel from a couple of Sundays ago, with the two disciples on the road to Emmaus, Jesus did not immediately identify Himself to them. He allowed them to tell Him how they were feeling and then He offered His words of comfort. Perhaps that is how we can listen in love this coming week as we all experience this time of crisis. So be present to one another, listen in love, and reflect on the love of Jesus for each of us.

Amber Guyger and Brandt Jean

There has been an item in the news in recent days that I’d like to blog about today. Amber Guyger is a former police officer from Dallas who was convicted of the murder of a man she said she mistook for intruding into her apartment. But what I’d like to blog about today is not about the guilt or innocence of this woman, the plight of people of color in this country, deadly force by police or any of the other hotbed discussions this event raises.

After her trial the brother of the man who was killed Brandt Jean, got up on the stand and expressed his faith in God and his Christian belief that brought many people to tears. He told the courtroom that he didn’t bear Amber Guyger any ill will and wished that she would turn her life over to Christ. He forgave her because that is what his faith in Christ told him he should do and that even wished her wellness and happiness in her own life. Then in an act that stunned many people even further, he then asked if he could give her a hug which he did. It was a highly emotional moment and to me demonstrated the depth of this man’s faith and the power of forgiveness all flowing from Christ.

But… in the days after this extraordinary act, everyone seemed to have an opinion on whether this was something he should have done or if it was something they could have done. I even saw an article talking about how people of color because of this and other actions taken by families of victims, are expected to forgive no matter what.

My take on this young man’s actions is simply this. Why can’t we just accept it at the human level and allow this to serve as a model for us. This is so that we can forgive when it is hard and we can look for the good in others no matter the circumstances. This even should be taken for what it is. We should stop trying to analyze it or put it into a context where it should not be. Sometimes that is how love of neighbor begins- at the root- at the core. We love our neighbor- nothing more, nothing less. That is what Jesus asks of us and that is what we should do. Brandt Jean reminded us all of that fact.