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The State of Affairs- We Had Better Wake Up

Over the last fifteen years or so in ministry, I have met many families and ministered not only to them but their children as well. These years have brought about many triumphs, successes, and moments where I feel the Holy Spirit has made an impact on their lives. That is good and at the same time encouraging for the Church, because it is those families who will “carry the torch,” so to speak and keep the Church alive and relevant into the next generation. These families work alongside of us who are in ministry and assure that the faith “sticks,” no matter what obstacle or circumstance may come up in their lives. As I look out at the assembly at Sunday Mass, I can see how the parish of which I am a part has truly impacted individuals and families over the years. I can see that we helped this family through a death, this family through the birth of a child, this family through a divorce, this family through the trials of marriage, and so on.
 
But I also look out from my chair and see many people we haven’t touched. These might be people that come through our doors every week or maybe just occasionally. They feel that they have to remain connected to their faith and they struggle, oftentimes alone. Many times they succeed in that struggle, but at the same time could be so much more connected and in love with their faith than they already are. Unfortunately, many more times, they lose the connection they have, either through apathy, through a slight by a member of the parish or clergy, a scandal, or the influence of popular culture.
Those are the people I am concerned most about as a minister. I have heard within ministry circles that “we have to let the Holy Spirit guide us,” or “maybe the Church needs to get smaller at this point in history,” or “eventually they will come back to the faith.” These statements have a tendency to frustrate me as a parish minister because it speaks of the same apathy and lack of action that we bemoan all the time from our people. By saying the “Holy Spirit needs to guide us,” we oftentimes then just sit back and continue business as usual because after all, God has the plan in hand. We say that the Church needs to get “smaller.” Well doesn’t that mean that as the Church gets smaller and smaller, it will eventually become irrelevant in certain parts of the world? And while it might have been the case years ago that “people would eventually come back to the faith,” I just don’t think that is the case today. People leave the Church and never come back because the connection is lost. I see this first hand in the number of Catholics that I see refusing to have the Catholic Funeral Rites and simply having a service at the funeral home. Years ago, my mother always used to say that even though she might not be going to church every week, it was vitally important that she have a Catholic Funeral Mass. When it came to her death, she wanted nothing- not even prayers at the cemetery. I think all of us have people within our own families who are disconnected. Have we ever thought about what we are doing to get them re-connected?
 
I realize that the problems I have presented here can cause us to simply throw up our hands and say we can never change this. It may also cause us to say we need support in our efforts that many times the leadership of the Church doesn’t give us. We can also say that we can only change our little corner of the world by working on what we can control. And while most of these points might be valid, we all have to look within ourselves and ask a very basic, but poignant question. How good of an evangelizer am I? Am I proud to let people know I am Catholic? Do I feel comfortable in social circles defending the Church’s position on the “hotbed” topics? I would suspect that many of us take the attitude that we don’t want to offend others or impose our faith on others. It makes me think of an example from secular culture. Imagine yourself one day in the midst of a crowd that blasts the United States as the worse government on Earth, takes out an American flag and steps all over it, and then decries the military as a bunch of warmongering killers. The vast majority of us would have enough pride in our country to stand up and defend her against this group. Why then, can’t we afford the Church the same passion and zeal in defending her when she is attacked as being insensitive to others, as being an organization full of pedophiles or simply an organization headed by a bunch of old men out of touch with reality.
 
What we all must do is first of all, gain a sense of pride in our Church and in our Faith. We must truly take to heart the things we believe- that the Church is the way to salvation. We must feel offended and defend her when she is attacked in an unfair or inappropriate way. Second, we have to become evangelizers. We can’t be afraid to wear our faith on our sleeve. Third and most importantly, we have to come to know our faith. We have to realize that our faith is not just something that we learn once and for all when we are confirmed. Scripture study, spiritual reading, classes, seminars, and other means of catechesis must continue. We can’t expect to understand the issue of abortion or the issue of same-sex marriage and the Church’s position on these issues without some study and examination. That’s not to say that we all have to have theology degrees, but it does say we need to understand the why before we jump on the secular bandwagon. I would suspect that many people, if they understood the whys would have different opinions about these matters.
 
In summary, we can’t be apathetic, we have to be engaging and fired up about our faith. We have to know it enough to defend it, and we have to continue to bring those who feel disconnected back into the fold. Believe it or not, the future of the Church depends on it.

Bringing Them In and Keeping Them In

I have been thinking lately about the people we ministers in the Church minister to. There are certainly a wide variety of people and as a priest friend of mine put it, “that’s what makes ministry interesting.” But I often wonder if we are fighting a battle on two fronts and maybe we are being assaulted on two fronts. On one side, we have those who are not coming to church anymore- the unaffiliated is what we call them nowadays. They have faith but because of a variety of different reasons don’t choose to practice.They come around when a child needs to be baptized, a First Communion or Confirmation is scheduled, a son or daughter wants to get married, or a family member needs to be buried, (although that is becoming less and less too). We complain and lament the fact they aren’t in church. We try and devise programs and processes to get them to come, and we pray long and hard for their conversion.

Then on the other front, we have the enemy within. We have those within the Church that promote a certain ideology and political bent. These people, though passionate about their belief seek to destroy and correct everyone within the Church and outside the Church because they don’t adhere to their idea or thought.

So those of us who are trying to get more and more people to come through our doors and guide them ever so gingerly to re-connect with their faith or even connect with their faith for the first time, fight a battle to make that happen and at the same time see our efforts attacked and ridiculed.

I just think the example of Christ needs to be followed. Yes, Christ cleansed the temple of the idolators but he also welcomed and sat at table with sinners. In other words, He could stand up for what was right but also at the same time could be compassionate to the person who had yet to discover what right was. Sometimes we seek to be mini-Christs who want to perform a miracle and simply say a word, present an argument, or have someone touch our cloak and be converted. The fact is we are not Christ and to expect others to come to the faith in those manners is playing God and not letting Jesus do the work. So perhaps the way to go is to have people encounter Jesus in their everyday lives- to be in relationship with Him and then be in relationship with His Church.


Being Present

“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”

This quote by Fr. Henri Nouwen speaks about how we all sometimes need to refrain from our desire to fix other people’s problems when they come to us. I know I have been guilty of this many times in my life. Trying to come up with a solution to take aways someone else’s pain is almost innate. We don’t like to see other people suffering and when we do, it brings about certain level of uncomfortableness with us.

So the solution is simply to be present and that is a lesson for all of us. When someone comes to us we need to be that person who means most to them and with that comes the notion that we must simply be silent and be present.